Note that I’m going to do my best to untangle finances and economics from politics.  I’m not making a political argument and, please realize that, if you start thinking along party lines (of either side) or are applying this to anything but personal behavior, you’re missing my point entirely.

Economic Foolishness

So, let’s start by defining economic foolishness.  We’re trained in our current world to get the most bang for your buck. To be wise with your purchases to make sure you get the most for the least amount.  We’re considered stupid if we put money into things that have no return or have ‘low value’.  We’re ignorant if we opt for investments that grow slowly and minimally, rather than robustly.  What I’m going to suggest here is that these opinions are not of God and are very often completely counter to what we should be doing if following Christ.

I’m not saying “be stupid and just throw money away because it’s not important”.  Quite the contrary.  I’m saying that money is SO important to how we live our faith that we must look past the wisdom of the world and look to the direction from God. We must look past the best value for ourselves and invest in the best value for other people and for the world as a whole.  We must look past America and see what’s best for all of God’s creation.   When we do this, we often look completely foolish.

Charity

Let’s start with an easy one on which I think we can all agree.  God asks us to give away much of what we earn to those less fortunate than us.  Right out of the gate, this is economically foolish.  We are working hard every day and then we turn around and, with no strings attached (hopefully) we just give our money to someone else.

When Christians do this, however, they most often take the ’safest’ and easiest roads which offer them the most credit (ie. personal gain).  They give most often to their local church where their donations are ‘credited’ to their account, are added to a budget (which they vote on), and are all tallied up on a sheet at the end of the year which can be shown to the government in order to get financial credit.

I won’t go down the rabbit hole of arguing that, in my eyes, this isn’t charity at all (it’s the supporting of an organization from which you get benefits and then can write off these social activities on your taxes ;)…but I will challenge it to say that if it is charity, it’s charity in its weakest form.  That’s why it doesn’t feel very ‘foolish’ and instead feels quite ‘wise’.  You can track exactly where your money goes, you can vote on it, and you can somehow get a return on investment.

“Real” charity is giving in a way which:

• Gives you no credit for giving…be that credit financial, emotional, or spiritual
• Has no advantage to you and all advantage to the person/people you’re giving to
• Is not track-able or quantifiable (except by God)

I think it’s summed up pretty well in the following verses from Matthew:

So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

I would argue that most ‘charity’ done by Christians is done in a way that is “wise” in the eyes of secular economists.  It is giving that is no different than supporting a bowling league that you’re a part of.  Whether they’ll admit it or not, giving to their church benefits them.

A funny thing has happened in the past when I’ve truly given to charity (or directly to a person) in a way I believe is biblical:  I feel deeply and incredibly foolish. I feel like what I’ve just done isn’t wise use of my money.  My stomach hurts because I feel stupid for giving to something for which I’ll never get credit and never even know whether it did ‘the greatest good’ or not.  This is the foolish economics of faith and it doesn’t always make me feel good. But it’s exactly the way God asks me to give to charity. (note that it doesn’t have to feel bad to be right, I’m just saying it doesn’t always feel good…)

Value

As mentioned at the beginning, we’re told that in a capitalist society, that we should do everything to get the most bang for our buck.  If we ever choose something of lesser quality which cost more money, we’re stupid, right?  I think, in the world of a faithful person, this rule is flipped on it’s head.

Sure, sometimes it makes all the sense in the world to buy the ’smart’ thing and get the most ‘value’.  The problem is, we miss the boat when we define the word value.  We define it as something related to the thing we’re buying, but there’s so much more to value than that.  There’s so many more important things people of faith should put into that word ‘value’ than the quality or usefulness of the thing being purchased.

To God, people are the highest value.  Not things. A close second and third (still greater than things) are animals and our planet.  That puts, at the very most, the ‘thing’ we’re buying at about #4 on where we should consider it when assessing value.  We should first consider the people involved in that purchase: the person you buy it from, the people who ship the item, the laborers who made the item, the society who manufactured that item, right down to the person who is benefiting the most from the profits and what that will mean for the future of society.  People come first when assessing value.

Then we have animals and the environment (God’s beloved creation).  We have to, next, assess the value here.  Is what we’re purchasing hurting or bad for God’s creation?  If so, then it’s not a good value to people of faith and we should spend our money elsewhere.

THEN, finally, we get to the value of the thing itself.  I won’t spend any time on this because I think it’s an assessment skill we have in overabundance.  You can see, that we shouldn’t even think about purchasing that thing, or determining it’s value until we’ve already determined the people/creation value of the item.  The value of the ‘thing’ is almost an afterthought after it’s passed the two tests that are really important.

Value, in the secular world, is all about MY money and what I get for it…value in the economics of faith is about people first, then God’s creation, with the ‘value of the thing’ bringing up the rear.  What does this mean in reality?  It means that often times people of faith will look ‘foolish’ with how they spend their money:  paying more to support a local family business than going to the MegaMart or being joyful when the local auto repair shop makes a good profit on the work he’s done for you because you know he works hard and is struggling to survive.  It means we pay more and sometimes get ‘less value’ in the eyes of the world.

When was the last time you bought something of “less value” because it was the purchase of greater value in the eyes of God?

Investing and Retirement

How about investments and retirement?  Its easy to invest our money and savings in something which will get us the biggest return.  Often times we don’t care (or even consider) where our investment dollars are going.  We don’t ever ask if we’re helping Tobacco, Oil, or Pornography-Peddling companies make a profit, as long as we get a good return.  We stick our heads in the sand and pray for a good financial return.  This isn’t how people of faith should be investing.

Luckily, we have another option.  You can choose Socially Responsible Investing instead.  You can put people and what’s best for the world in front of profit.  You can invest with your foolish faith-based economics and it can make a difference…or at the very least you can remove yourself from the economy of sin.

Retirement is an issue I’ve thought about for a long time.  Retirement investment accounts are ‘wise’ in the ways of the economic world.  But are they what people of faith should be counting on or doing?  Are they just proof of how weak our faith is?

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Personal Socialism

Finally let’s get to something that can sound very political but, again, I ask you to have some self control and don’t let your mind go there.  We look at the New Testament community and see an awesome example of, what we now call, socialism.

32 All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had. 33 With great power the apostles continued to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus, and much grace was upon them all. 34 There were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned lands or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales 35 and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone as he had need.

Now, before you get your panties in a bunch, I don’t think this (as some might suggest) is a biblical argument for government socialism.  I’m not even going to go there.  Instead, it’s an obvious example of the foolish economics of faith.  They sold their personal possessions without regard for ‘whats best for me’ and gave to those who had less…they even put the power to decide what to do with that money into the hands of the apostles.  They let other believers decide where the ‘wise economics’ directed the money. This is foolishness and it is the way of Christ.

‘The Way it Is’

Many people look at all this, throw up their hands and say “that’s just the way it is” and keep shopping at big box, ‘big value’ stores.  They keep making their investments and sending work to China because “the free market works” and “it’s a global economy”.  The free market is bullshit for a follower of Christ. Working the way the ‘free market’ wants me to work is of no concern to me.  The free market is not the highest goal and the free market is not the Savior.  The free market IS the ‘way it is’…but that doesn’t mean we’re helpless.

As Christians and followers of Jesus, we have weak faith if we bow to what the markets tell us to do.  We have little faith if we don’t stand up against ‘the market’ (which puts profit as the main goal) and stand for a ‘people first’ economy. Instead, we should be subjecting ourselves to what God wants us to do…if that’s ‘foolish’ and opposed to the free market, so be it.

Are you foolish?

When we look at our lifestyles, at where we spend money, at how we assess ‘value’, are you ’smart’?  Or are you foolish?  I choose being foolish, putting God, people, and creation above my own desires.  I invite you to join me and be foolish with your money, sharing it to a ridiculous extent with those who are in need, support people who work hard and fairly even if they’re not the best ‘value’, and use it to stick the ‘free market’ in the eye because it only assesses value by the worth of ‘things’…not people.

So go ahead…call me foolish.

Lately I find myself wanting to disconnect.

I know lots of you will tell me to ‘make a difference’.  To ‘be the change you want to see…’.  To stop being such a wuss.  To tell me ‘thats life, you can’t avoid it’.  I get that. I’ve heard it.  I’ve told myself these things.  But then, this week, I realized something that may or may not make a difference in these arguments.

Just One Thing

Let’s just say that I have something about society that I think is really wrong and I want to ‘be the change’ on that issue.  Let’s pretend, for example, it’s factory farming (Ok, we all I know I don’t have to pretend that hard).  It’s an issue that I decide I want to ‘make a difference’ in.  Because of that, I go out and buy meat from ‘good’ farmers.  I explain my point of view to those I know, hoping it’ll make an impact.  I participate in organizations and with companies that are trying to change this issue for the better.

Did my efforts make a difference? Maybe they did on a small scale, and that’s great. But what if this one issue isn’t really one issue, but is symptomatic of a larger problem?  What if factory farming exists because our society no longer respects life, or animals, or farmers?  What if factory farming isn’t fixed as long as our society is THAT broken?

Does treating ‘rough skin’ on someone with leprosy help fight the disease?  It doesn’t.  It may make you feel like you’re helping, but you’re really not making a difference…you’re just making yourself feel better.

So, while you may be ‘making a difference’ in a single issue, the reality is that it’s just a symptom, not an issue at all. The issue won’t be addressed as long as the larger problem continues. Is your one issue really worth the trouble?

Fundamentally Broken

This really leads to a question of a society, an organization, or a group being fundamentally broken to the point where fixing the components really doesn’t lead to fixing the whole.

As always, churches are a good example for me.  For years I tried to be part of the solution in my local church.  I joined teams, I led initiatives, and heck, I worked on the staff.  So, when people tell me that I shouldn’t get frustrated with church, I should be part of the solution I secretly think they’re naive and move ahead further into disconnection.

A while ago I made the determination that fixing small issues in my church wasn’t fixing the ‘whole’. Instead, it was more likely encouraging the whole to have more meetings, more committees, and a bigger agenda.  What was my answer?  Disconnection.

I still participate in The Church (the worldwide Church of Christianity) but no longer participate in our local church.  I still have constant connection with friends and family from our local church (including staff members) and try to stay involved in their lives, but we have stopped supporting the institution itself.  And, yes, we long ago stopped giving our tithe to the local church as well because it was simply encouraging them in the wrong direction (can you say ‘bigger barns’?)

So, through disconnection we were hoping to change the whole, from the ground up.  And ya know what?  It seems to be working. The church is, frankly, running out of money because people like us stopped giving.  Programs are being cut, questions are being asked.  A “church doctor” has been hired. (don’t get me started on that one…)

Disconnection has made an impact on the whole which, I pray, will rethink it’s fundamentals and alter, not just the way it operates, but the reason it exists.

Disconnecting from Society?

I don’t think I’m brave enough (or crazy enough) to totally disconnect from society as a whole.  To become Amish or a live-off-the-land-hippie.  Would I like to?  Yup.  But for the sake of my kids and the risk that God may think I’m being stupid, I don’t think I can do it. However, every day I find myself moving more in that direction.

Driving through a daily commute lately has shown how ridiculous it is to be a part of this fuel-wasting and time-sucking structure of our society.  (As a side note, have you ever noticed the insane number of signs (road and advertisement) that you encounter in a 1 mile stretch of suburban/urban roads?  It’s an insult to my attention span!)

Watching TV or movies makes me complicit in the ads they peddle, the values they endorse, and the money they make from people who, frankly, can’t afford it.

Listening to news from outlets who confuse entertainment and reporting (and believing what they say!) makes me a supporter of this base of our modern ‘knowledge’.

Spending hours on the internet, literally altering my brain structure, is turning me into another quick-fix, short-attention span idiot (ahem…no offense :)

So is the answer to these (and many other insane base-line features of our society) to simply disconnect from them?  Do I move to the country to avoid traffic?  Do I throw my TV out the window ? Do I decide that I’d rather go without news than get it from a source that sickens me?  Do I stop using the internet, quit my job as a web developer, and start digging ditches?

Do I completely disconnect if I see our societal problems, on the whole, are not being changed by treating the symptoms?

I don’t know.  That’s my instinct these days.  I’m just so worn out by advertising, biased news, high-speed/no-depth thinking, and widespread ignorance about what’s happening to our society.  Yeah, I know, i sound like a 60s activist or a Libertarian, but I’m neither of these (really, I’m not). I’m just a regular guy who actually is taking notice of what’s happening to us...the question is:  What to do when the problem is so big that you can’t fix it one issue at a time.

Maybe I’ll just move to Spain and become a cheesemaker.  I’m sure the grass is greener over there.

When it came time for our first little girl to start attending preschool we had to make some hard decisions about where to send her.  Everyone we knew sent their kids to the school at our church.  That’s fine, but it’s not something I wanted for our children.  I wanted to make sure, instead, that they are exposed to an array of faiths, cultures, and socioeconomic situations and I wanted them to to do that in the course of ‘real life’.  Watching it on TV or talking about ‘other people’ in theory isn’t the same as making friends with them in preschool.  I’m a firm believer that my church’s school would inhibit all of this dramatically and I think, in our post-modern world of Christianity, one of the most important things is to raise Christians who build authentic relationships with people different than them.

Dradle Dradle Dradle….

Today I go to my daughters preschool to see their Holiday program.  I know that, during the past few weeks, they had some Hanukkah days at school where they made paper menorahs and learned the dradle song.  Most modern Christians I know would shudder at this because, for some reason, it’s evil to learn about other religions (ok, that’s a bit overstated, but you get my drift).  So, naturally, being brought up in this Christian church I wondered if this was something I should be afraid of.  (that may seem silly to some, and I don’t blame you if you think so).  It was like a left-over feeling that I know I’d at least have to deal with somehow.

I started to think about it and realized how sad it is that this attitude teaches Christian kids how to judge others at a very young age. By even making mention of the differences between our religions (at an age when they can’t grasp those differences) we start to build division and judgment in our children who are too young to even understand the concept of Religion, anyway. By questioning the beauty or history of what they’re taught we’re sowing seeds of future separation between ‘us’ and ‘them’.  That, in God’s eyes, is never a good thing.

Starting with God

One of the things I realized early on with my kids was that the Christian message, as simple as it seems to adults, is incredibly complex for a kids brain. I wondered very early how to teach my children that God is three persons, but one God.  It didn’t take long for me to realize it would just get confusing, so I learned to just start with “God”. God is, amazingly, a concept that kids can grasp.  “Something” out there that loves us, provides for us, and hears us when we pray.  Keep it simple and emphasize the personality, not the theology, of God.

As my first daughter approaches 4, we’re able to start to teach her more about Jesus.  Sure, explaining that Jesus is the same person as God (even though we ’see’ Jesus in our books but never see God) is incredibly challenging, but we slowly get there over time…and God helps us with that.  The Spirit will be a whole other thing later (and I think that’s less of an ‘intellectual’ piece of the puzzle anyway).  This idea of starting with God and then adding Jesus makes alot of sense for our kids…afterall, it’s the same progression God used with humans in general. Yahweh led them until Jesus rescued them and, finally, the Spirit sustains us.  This is a God determined progression that helps guide our parenting.

1491

This past year I read the book 1491.  A fantastic history of The Americas before Europeans arrived.  Reading it really helped convey the beauty of the societies and cultures that were developed and at home before Columbus arrived on those shores.  Of course, eventually, the story had to come to a tragic end with the Spanish invading and tearing the place up.

What really struck me about the invasion story was that it wasn’t powered by greed or warlords.  It was powered by Christianity. Now, you’d have to read the history yourself to get the full flavor of this, but these invaders held the Cross of Christ high as they massacred the ‘heathens’.  They believed it’s what God wanted them to do.  They were certian that to become Christian you had to become European as well (Jesus was European…wasn’t he? ;).  So, anything ‘primitive’ must be beaten out of you:  your culture, your clothes, your language and your concept of God.  All of it had to be torn down and rebuilt before you could “know God”.  Today, that obviously smacks with ignorance and brutality.

And yet.

And yet…we continue down the same path today.  It seems that we’ve wandered far from my daughters paper menorah but it’s about to come back around.

When teaching our Children about other faiths, we shoudn’t act like Cortes or DeSoto, completely massacring those that hold different spiritual beliefs. When we tear down other faiths, set them up as ‘those people’ or subtly convey a message that “they’re evil” we hold the cross high as we destroy the beautiful diversity of God’s people.  Too often we think we have to stop everyone from singing the dradle song before they can start to hear our message of salvation.  I’d suggest we do nothing of the sort.

Starting with God (redux)

Instead of tearing other faiths (and cultures) down to ‘make them Christian’ I suggest we simply acknowledge and respect their journey of faith and where they are currently.  I heard a story, recently, about a Christian mom and daughter who lived next door to a Muslim family.  When the little girl saw the Muslim mother’s head covering she asked what it was all about.  The Christian mom simply told her that the Muslim woman loved God and that’s how she worshiped and honored him. Think about the other ways that conversation could have gone in a number of other Christian households.  It would have started with judgment, conveyed disdain, and ended with the child feeling that the woman next door was ignorant and evil.  Which approach is more God honoring?  Which approach allows God to judge and us to bring Christ’s message of respect, honor, and humility?

Like the Muslim woman next door, serious seekers of other faiths are honestly pursuing God. The other two major world religions (Judaism and Islam) are even outwardly pursuing the God of the Old Testament.  Other faiths may not be seeking exactly the God that we, as Christians, know, but the concept of God is similar in feel and function to the one we call The Father.  So, as we talk about sharing Christ’s message of love with the world, I’d suggest we’ve already got a head start with people who recognize this “God concept”.  If like teaching children, or like God taught humanity, we start with “God” (ie. The Father), we’re on a well trodden path.  If we start by tearing down “their God”, we took a wrong turn somewhere.

Adding Jesus

So, all this made me think about next steps.  As Christians, we believe in The Father, of course, and we have a concept of “God” not unlike other religions.  So, what’s the difference between us and that Muslim woman next door?  Jesus, of course.

The Bible makes it quite clear that Jesus is the point.  It says directly that “no one comes to The Father except through Me (Jesus)”.  So, I’d suggest that, while other religions have the general concept of The Father (in once sense or another), and that is who they seek, they’re missing the one crucial component that the bible offers us as a path to God:  We must know Jesus in order to truly know God.

Rather than tearing down God, I am going to suggest we simply start by “adding Jesus”.    Good missionaries know this concept well.  They go into tribal areas and, unlike Cortes, don’t run around tearing down cultures.  They take the native religion and redefine it in the light of Christ. They don’t destroy what’s beautiful.  They don’t tear down what’s established.  They add Jesus, and thereby, add a door which opens to God.

What then?

After adding Jesus to a Muslim’s life, what then?  What happens when we add Jesus to a Buddhists practice?  What’s the next step after a Confucian monk accepts Jesus as the path to God?  What then?  God takes over (as we remain his light in that person’s life).

If you believe that we don’t convert people, that instead it’s God’s job (through the work of The Spirit) we can let go after sharing the message of Christ (after sharing it each opportunity we get, that is).  We can put it in God’s hands when we’ve shared the path to Him.  It’s on His shoulders then.  The spirit will naturally follow and God will transform that life how He wants…that’s His business, not ours.  Maybe it will include making them a “Christian like us” or maybe it will include making them a Buddhist follower of Jesus Christ. That’s His prerogative and none of your business.

Back to Preschool

All of this helps me understand how I want to raise my 3 year old in the faith. I want her to build real realtionships with people of all kinds.  I want her to respect people of different faiths and find the incredible beauty and honor in other cultures and most of all, I want her to simply add Jesus to those around her. I don’t want to teach my kids to judge:  I’ve seen this in other Christian children and there is nothing more ugly than an ignorant child judging someone trying to seek God. I don’t want to teach my kids to divide or to hate.  I don’t want my girls to view those of other cultures or faiths as enemies.  I, instead, want them to view others as God views them:  People just like us, sinners who only have hope in Christ.

So, in the end, I’m proud of my girl’s paper menorah. I’ll smile and groove a little while she sings the dradle song.  And, every day, I’ll try and add a little more Jesus to her life, so she can share that with those around her.

But First…

I must mention where my recent ‘noticing’ have come from.  One source will get credit (my brilliant wife), one will get it’s usual scolding (my local church) with the understanding that they are doing the best they can to spread Christ to those in my community, and one will get my recommendation for a ‘must read’ book.

Dumbing Down God’s Story

It all started recently with the last in that list,  a book called The Lost World of Genesis One.  A Lutheran pastor (believe it or not) recommended this ‘non-standard’ look at creation to me and it completely blows away modern approaches to the story you find in Genesis 1.  I’m not even going to attempt to do it justice here (seriously, go read it) but, i’ll just touch on one point very generally.  It makes the case that the Bible is theology and isn’t interested in science. In doing so, it points out how all the debates about creation/evolution, fueled by religious fervor are doing nothing but harming the “God-ness” of our Creator.  The creation story is about an even greater miracle than we give it credit for and, instead, we ‘dumb it down’ by making it something we can ‘prove’ with science. Lesson number one is that ‘proving’ God with science is not only a pointless exercise , it’s one that completely misses the point that God is trying to show us. (for details on why I say this, again please pick up that book).

Proving God is Disproving Him

The more glaring and ‘ah ha’ moment came from the mouth of my wife (and no, I’m not saying this just to get in her good graces).  My church is currently doing a series entitled “More Than A Story”.  The point of the series is to ‘prove’ (via apologetics) that the Old Testament isn’t just a bunch of nice stories that teach us a lesson…instead, that they really happened the way the Bible describes (showing that God can do great things, I suppose).

Each week we hear a story and then hear ‘proof’ of why it must be true.  After this weekend’s story of Jonah, I was talking with my wife about a reference made in the sermon to a modern story about a man getting swallowed whole by a shark, and surviving.  The reason this was in the sermon was to ‘prove’ that the Jonah story could have happened just as described.  But then my wife said something that stopped me in my tracks and is (currently) making me reassess everything I think about an “apologetics” approach to evangelism.

She said: “Why would you prove that God did something by showing that it could happen, any day, through the natural ‘forces of nature’?“  Isn’t the whole point of the story to show the miracle and all powerful-ness of God, ?  That He can do anything he wants, anytime He wants, regardless of nature?  Doesn’t ‘proving’ that God did something through everyday science/medicine effectively diminish and disprove the need for Him?

I was speechless (which doesn’t happen often). She was exactly right.

So Why?

Why, then, do we try so hard to ‘prove’ God through science and logic.  It’s effectively the exact same approach that people take trying to disprove Him.  They say “look! Science accounts for this, we have no need for God”.  If we can prove it with science, logic, measurements, and rock-solid proof, didn’t we just hide the supernatural hand of God behind a bunch of weak-ass human evidence?

The entire field of apologetics is now suspect in my mind.  Apologetics attempts to prove, through logic, history, science or other human proofs, that God exists and that he makes sense.  While I acknolwledge that God does indeed exist, I will believe until the end that, if we think he ‘makes sense’, we don’t really know who He is.  As soon as we think our human logic can put Him in a box of understanding, we’re ignorant.

So, I propose this:  We let God speak for himself. We stop building creation museums that attempt to ‘prove’ a young earth.  We stop calling Intelligent Design ’science’.  We stop pulling stories from tabloids to ‘prove’ the Bible.  We give God a little more reverence than all that.  We start to acknolwedge (even to those who demand “proof” before conversion) that we can’t give them enough evidence to convict them…that only His Spirit can do that.

Let’s stop trying to prove God before we accidentally disprove Him in the process.

A bold prediction, I know.  Am I happy about this?  I don’t know.  In some ways I am, in some ways it’s really sad.  Here’s a little stream of consciousness on why I think it’s going to happen:

Disconnect

There is a pretty massive disconnect today between those who get paid to work in a church (or who ‘work’ there and don’t get paid) and people ‘out in the world’ following Jesus.  Massive.

If you listen to those inside the church they all are constantly bemoaning the loss of ‘butts in the seats’ (as I often crudely hear it stated).  People are leaving churches and, to them, it’s a mysterious tragedy.  The problem is, they treat it as if people are walking away from God…but often they’re not…they’re just walking away from the corporate/local church.

People inside the church see this as the cardinal sin, but only because they’ve (and we’ve) been raised in a culture that says the only way to God is through the institutional church (maybe not literally, but it is a subconscious fact of faith for church leaders).  Church leaders believe that ‘we’ need what ‘they’ have or we’re spiritually lost. (never mind that what they have isn’t God, but an institution)

People outside the church who are following Christ see this approach to ‘getting butts back in the seats’ as arrogant, self-serving, and a bunch of wasted energy. Afterall (I’ll boldly ask), what percentage of ‘church’ has anything to do with being Christ to the world?  In my experience, very little.

The overall disconnect comes because churches think they’re invaluable, while people following Christ in the world see them as irrelevant. Any way you slice it, unless the church starts supporting those who are ‘living Christ’ in the world in more relevant ways, it’s a goner.

Who’s Doing The Most Good?

I’ll admit this is going to be a generalization.  There are churches who do good.  There are people outside the church who claim to follow Christ but are worthless.  But in general, I’ll be bold and claim:

Most life changing, hope giving, poor feeding, alien welcoming acts of Christ are done completely disconnected from the local church.

The people I learn from and are inspired by in their faith are people outside the church institution.  Sure, they may go to a church.  They may be a member.  But the works that they do tend to be more self-sufficient and disconnected from that congregation.  They aren’t doing things because their congregation supports them (or, heaven forbid, facilitates them)…but despite the fact that it doesn’t.

I’m thinking of activists for the poor and needy.  Many authors teaching Christian truth.  Everyday people serving in homeless shelters and lobbying congress on behalf of the poor.  Setting up non-profts to welcome the alien and the orphan.

Do churches do this stuff?  Yes they do…but more often, they don’t.

Instead, most churches are spending time trying to get more ‘butts in the seats’, balance the budget, plan the next big worship blowout, or raising money for a youth trip.  It’s all about them, it’s self serving.  It’s the building of an empire rather than the doing of a mission. I’ve heard the arguments that these things are all done to bring more people to Christ, but I don’t buy it.

So, I’ll boldly argue that more Christ like activity happens disconnected from the local church than spawning from it.  Because of this, churches are not only irrelevant, they’re unnecessary to us doing mission.

It’s easier to connect

One of the greatest arguments I always hear for the local church is ‘Christian community’…the getting together of people with a common faith to support and spur one another on.  This community is absolutely essential.  (I know because I’m pretty bad at being a part of it, and I suffer for it) The problem is, the local church sees itself as the only place to get this community, the only place to get Christian support, challenges from other believers, and inspiration to serve God.

Again, I see this as an arrogant view by the local church. In my life, the most authentic, inspiring, healthy, growth-encouraging Christian communities are those that form naturally.  Groups of friends who meet together for dinner.  Guys who get together to study scripture, not because they’re part of a ‘church group’ but because they respect each other, are friends with each other, and seek to be Christ to each other.

Previously, it may have been difficult to form these groups, so the local church was the only place to find them.  With the drastic overhaul of interpersonal communication, the change of work styles from a 8-6 factory shift to a salaried ‘get your work done and I don’t care how you do it‘ workday, we’ve made it easy to plan and attend these groups on our own, without the help of the local church.

These days its easier to connect with each other, easier to form authentic Christian community outside of the local church which gives us one less reason to ‘need’ the church, which apparently functioned more in this respect as our personal assistant than our spiritual leader.

What about accountability?  What about spiritual truth?  What about (blah blah blah)….As soon as we assume that the local church is the only place The Spirit can keep us accountable, the only place that can preach the truth, and the only ’safe’ source of correction and inspiration, we’re right back where Luther started, aren’t we?  In a place where the church claims spiritual authority, undermining the role of The Spirit in each and every believer. And I, for one, won’t have it.

Is it just me?

The response I hear too often is: “Well, Bob, you’re just different.  Sure, maybe you don’t need the church because you have the luxury of time and the drive to make this stuff happen on your own…however, everyone else needs the church to serve these functions.”  To translate: “You’re a freak, stop applying your freakdom to everyone else.”

But you can quickly see it’s not just me.  Look at the numbers.  Look at the lack of ‘butts in the seats’.  Am I really the only one who thinks all these things?  Am I the only one who sees the disconnect?  To say so is ignoring the problem churches complain so much about:  They’re losing their congregations.  Why? I’m trying to tell you if you’ll listen :)

Losing Followers of Christ?

Note that I said “losing congregations”, not “losing followers of Jesus”.  Let’s say the local church dies as I predict.  What impact does that have on followers of Christ in our country…in our world?

When I talk with church leaders, it’s no secret to them that they believe at least half (I’m being generous here) of those ‘butts in the seats’ aren’t actually followers of Christ anyway. Sure they come to church, but they do it for reasons other than to worship The King (Worship, by the way, is something I don’t have an easy answer for replicating outside the local church..which maybe means this will be an important part of post-church communities of Christians….).

They’re there because their wives make them go, or to check off their ’spiritual thing’ for the week, or to relieve their guilt by giving some money, or to meet a potential spouse, or to keep their kids from doing drugs.  Whatever it is, people are at the local church for many, many reasons…but most of these reasons have nothing to do with Christ.

So, if the church goes away, what happens? I’d suggest that nothing happens. The people who follow Christ in churches will continue to do so outside of churches.  Those who show up for any other reason will stop showing up and will just find another way to fulfill these needs.  And, heck, in the process maybe they’ll stop being confused that Jesus is there to fulfill their selfish needs, to be a box that needs checking, and instead will encounter him in “real life”.

I’d argue that the number of people following Christ may actual RISE if churches were to die rather than decline. Have you talked to many people who are ’spiritual’ but don’t attend church?  If you have, you may think, as I do, that the church going away would be the best chance of them encountering Jesus…removing all the barriers that churches throw up, and putting Christ’s voice clearly back in the mouths of their friends and family members.

Long Live The Church

As I often point out, note the difference between my usage of Church and church in this post.  Unless I mistyped, you won’t see ‘Church’ (big ‘C’) anywhere before this section.  That’s because, while I predict the death of the church (lowecase ‘c’, which means the local institution), I pray and long for the explosion of The Church (uppercase ‘C’, which is simply a reference to all people worldwide, and throughout history, who call Jesus their Christ) in new and dramatic ways.

God tells us that He will sustain The Church.  He will maintain it and feed it until He returns.  For that, I’m excited beyond belief.  Note, however, this is a very different thing from maintaining and feeding the local church as we know it. God doesn’t promise our 501c3s won’t go bankrupt and that all the butts will leave the seats.  He simply promises that he will make sure those following him, every day, will be encouraged and taken care of until He comes back.

So, again: long live The Church.

Less Butts

I’ll leave this entry with a simple (and cheesy) question:  Shouldn’t leaders in the church put down their arrogance and be glad that there’s less ‘butts in the seats’?  Afterall, less butts sitting means more potential legs moving and hands giving, and THAT is more like what Christ asked us to do.

The longer I think about who Jesus was and the harder I look at the Christianity that surrounds me here in America, the more I think the church is starting to look a whole lot more like the Pharisees than Christ.

When Did It Change?

I don’t think it’s a secret that I’m an anti-establishment soul.  Red tape, processes, and administrative boards make me incredibly angry.  So, maybe it’s this fact that causes me to view Jesus different than others might, but the more I look, the harder it is for me to believe that I’m seeing Him through a personal bias.

I’m just as tired as anyone of these “Radical Jesus” books and ministries and view points.  There’s been a recent surge in pop-Christianity that has emphasized this Hippie Jesus, turning Him more and more into a drug-free Jim Morrison.  So, don’t hear me supporting that movement with what I say here….but….

Jesus was a Radical.  Jesus was anti-establishment. Jesus loved the unlovable and helped the untouchable.  Jesus was angry with the traditions that prevented ‘regular people’ from worshiping God, and rejected the dogma of The Church at the time.  Jesus derided the ‘personal improvement’ piety of the establishment and forgave those who were a miserable mess (telling them to simply be forgiven and go sin no more).

Where has this Jesus gone?

These days, I can’t pass by a church without hearing a message of self-improvement shouted from the pulpit. Many try and mask it by making them ’spiritual improvements’ or simply calling them something else.  Improve your marriage.  Improve your prayer life.  Improve your financial situation.  Improve your connections with people.  Stop drinking.  Stop doing drugs.  Stop being gay.  Stop having abortions.  Stop voting for baby killers.  Stop hating your job.  Stop, basically, sucking at being human.  You can be a good person.  You can live up to our invisible standard.  You can do it if you just stop sinning.

I hope we all understand how asinine that last paragraph really is. Because, guess what?  We CAN’T stop sinning.  We CAN’T improve ourselves.  And we CAN’T be anything but a broken mess.  All of us.  Pastors.  Homosexuals. Bible Teachers.  Abortion Doctors.  Small Group Leaders.  Rapists.  And everyone in between.  We’re all broken and we’re all helpless…there’s nothing we can do to improve ourselves.

What does this mean?  We need to stop thinking about ourselves so damn much.  It’s not about us. Jesus made that clear.  When he preached a message of “Lean on God because you can’t save yourself” that was pretty radical.  That was pretty anti-establishment.  Where has that message gone?

If I were a church

So, here’s the segment where I talk about how churches should change.

1. They need to start being honest with their messages.  They need to honestly identify these sermons of self-help (which they call by many ’spiritual’ names) and jettison them.
2. They need to start preaching brokenness (see previous blog entry)
3. They need to start preaching the REAL Jesus.  They need to stop preaching “suit and tie, Leave it to Beaver, become a better person” Christianity and start preaching “insane John the Baptist, congregating with sinners, knocking over tables in the temple, homeless, mystical, irrational loving, anti-establishment” Christianity.  A Christianity that looks foolish because of it’s over abundance of grace, love, and trust, even when others don’t ‘deserve’ it.

But I’m not a Church. And I don’t want to be.

The problem is, I’m not a church.  I’m not an institution.  And I’m not going to get tangled up in the structure to try and change it.  The structure IS the problem…we don’t know how to live as Christians outside of that structure.  So, if I can’t/won’t change the structure, I’ll continue to chip away at it.  Hopefully, as an archeologist does when uncovering history encased in rock, I’ll be able to destroy the rock without the treasure inside.  Hopefully I’ll be able to slowly destroy the structure of American church while preserving the precious faith encased (and paralyzed) inside.

How?

The other day I saw a news report about The Tea Party Movement. (I’m going to offend people’s politics here, I’m sure, but…whatever.) They were described as a movement based on anger and backlash without any substance of their own.  A politician (believe it or not) made a wise statement when he said “Anger is fine, but a government RUN by anger (if they were elected) is not a healthy thing”.

I immediately thought of my constant attack on the church. Are these blog posts and my frequent rants Tea-Party-esque in the sense that it’s a lot of anger without much substance?  If I could actually change the structure, would I have any ideas based, not on anger, but on positive progress?  If I could be a local church would I be more like the Radical Jesus or would I simply continue reacting negatively to the old ways that angered me so much?

I think it’s hard for me to answer because I see things more complicated than that.  I think my solution would be to destroy the system completely and continue to work outside of it as an individual.  The following of Christ shouldn’t be a systematic thing. If there’s anything that the Lost Radical Jesus showed us this is it.  We should be striving, not to be a ‘good person part of a good system’ but to be a broken person leaning on God and trying to do our best to heal those around us.  We should be more like that individual Jesus I see in the bible and less like the systematic church I see in America.

So, do I have a solution?  I think I do.  But it’s a solution that exists outside of the local church.  It’s wholy dependent on people disconnecting from the system and learning to Live Christ as individuals…so that solution looks different for everyone.

I hope, in some way, you’ll join me in this. Call out your local church on it’s self-help messages.  Reject ‘button down’ Christianity.  Embrace irrational love of your neighbors and personal responsibility for faith. As the famously over-used quote from Gandhi says: Be The Change You Want To See In The World (and, I’d add, ‘dont wait for the church to be that change).   That’s the best I can do, in my own broken way, each and every day.

Learn, Don't Lean.

no time to proof read, spelling errors abound…enjoy!

As you may have guessed (it’s no secret), these blogs are born out of frustrating conversations.  Conversations which just make me smack my forehead and, after a second or two of resistance, give up because debate is obviously pointless.  I’m talking about conversations / discussions / debates where I just can’t respect the other point of view because it’s asserting a point of view that has, quite obviously, been pulled from elsewhere.  The tell tale signs to me are:

• They are one sided, not willing to even look at the other side
• They use the exact same examples I’ve heard on TV, radio, read in the news, or heard thrown around in the local coffee shop
• They rely on ‘common sense’.  They have a “well, everyone knows…” attitude about them without any actual facts or specifics

These conversations are frustrating not because I disagree with a point being made (sometimes I don’t) but because they smack of ignorance.  They are full of popular thinking which was handed down to the person by someone else.  There’s no fact checking.  No critical thinking.  No honest debate.  They’re beliefs without basis, assertions without learning.

One Side Learns, The Other Side Leans

Normally, there’s 2 (or more) sides to a conversation like this.  There’s a belief or point being debated.  We live in a world where ‘everyone is entitled to their own ideas’, but we never stop to consider the fact that some people’s ‘ideas’ are uneducated.  They’re talking points.  They’re never researched or investigated.  They’re easy to assert (maybe because they’re simple) but aren’t based on fact (sounds like sound-byte TV to me!).

For most issues I encounter, there is pretty obviously a side of the discussion which educates itself (usually endlessly) and one that doesn’t.  Now, it seems obvious that logic dictates that the side who is actively educating themselves on the issue is going to be closer to the truth, doesn’t it?  But in this ‘everyone has an right’ society, we overlook this point.  We think that, ignorant or not, everyone can be right.  Guess what?  That’s crap.

One side is usually learning and the other side is ‘leaning’ on someone else’s ideas without actually fact checking or learning anything for themselves.

An Example

Let’s take an example of the learning vs. leaning idea:  Ever since Food Inc. I hear lots of discussions about eating meat.  Some people are against it, some people want to be against it, and some people defend their God given right to devour corn fed flesh.  But did you ever notice something?  How many books are there about how great it is to eat meat?  How many scientists are out there saying “eating factory meat is great for our environment!”?  None, that’s how many.  On the other hand, how many people are writing books about the way meat-eating is wreaking havoc on our planet?  How many news articles are there about what factory farms do to their workers?  Generally, how many ‘for’ arguments vs. ‘against’ arguments are there?

This should tell you something:  The people defending meat eating, to their death, aren’t out there reading book after book about how great it is.  They aren’t pouring over the studies that show it’s great for our world and economy.  They’re not because these things don’t exist.  Yet, those out there against eating meat are sucking up book after book, study after study, learning all they can about the issue. They devour newspapers, news reports, and expert (and amateur) testimony on the subject.

Who here is learning and who is leaning?  Who, is a more reliably source of fact and information?

We didn’t deal with those who want to be meat eaters. These are the folks who saw Food Inc. and think they understand the whole situation.  They’re almost as bad as those defending meat in the sense that they’re simply taking pop culture thinking (and a single source) at it’s word, regurgitating everything they heard.  They don’t continue study, they don’t dive deeper.  They’re leaning (not learning) on a single film.  Better..but still leaning.

Learn to Say “I don’t know”

If we could all learn to say “I don’t know” more often, we’d be in better shape.  If you’re in a converation about food, or government, or politics, and you haven’t actually studied it, dove in, learned about it…just admit you don’t know.  There’s no shame in that.  Owning up to ignorance keeps it at bay.

On the other hand, next time you’re talking about how bad the president is, or how bad the economy is, make sure you’re basing it on concrete information.  Make sure you haven’t taken Rush Limbaugh’s word for it. Make sure you aren’t just believing everything the New York Times spouts off.  Read books & newspapers….LOTS of them.  Once you feel like you actually understand what’s going on (and can defend that with FACT instead of gut feelings) then converse.

But until then, stop leaning.  It’s really annoying (and embarasses you even if you don’t know it)

This morning as I drove to my local Starbucks, I was listening to talk radio.  They were, of course, talking about health care and taking phone calls on the topic.  It was a self-proclaimed liberal talk show, so I was surprised that they took a call on the topic from an unashamed conservative.  The caller mentioned, right off the bat, that he wasn’t happy about the bill’s passage and a conversation ensued about the good and bad points of the bill.  I sat there shocked.  A conversation ensued. Respectful back-and-forth took place.  There was no yelling.  There was no name calling.  There were questions like “What don’t you like about the bill?” and statements such as “I can understand why you don’t like that…”  I was flabbergasted.  This was the political conversation of my dreams.  Respectful adult disagreement on an important issue which was totally devoid of hate. I felt like America had progressed, even for just a minute.

Now, let me say that I have no illusions about why this conversation came easier on a liberal talk show than it might have on a conservative one today.  It’s easy to feel generous and to be a good listener when you win.  It’s easy to respect the other side when you know you bested them, politically.  I won’t pretend I would be writing this blog entry if I was on the other side this morning…but good is good, even if I wouldn’t have felt like saying it after a ‘defeat’ of my ideals.

We Are A People Of Love

That brings this entry back around, as it always does, to my faith in Jesus and my involvement with Christianity.  After hearing this debate on the radio, I sat down to my computer and launched my social networks.  The vast majority of my friends on these networks are Christians and I was afraid to see what was being written.

Stop there for a second.

Why should I be afraid of what Christians were going to be writing this morning? Is it because I knew that a majority wouldn’t be happy about the outcome of last night’s vote?  No, I wasn’t afraid of disagreement (the radio conversation just inspired hope through the voicing of disagreement).  What I was afraid of was hateful disagreement.

The fact that I was afraid of this was based on previous experience.  In the past my political and religious math tells me that Christianity + Politics = Hateful Speech.  I can’t think of hardly a single exchange over the past years where a person of faith talked about political issues in a way that uplifted me or inspired me to follow Christ and love others more intensely.

Why is that?  Why is today’s Christian political discussion seemingly based on mudslinging hate against “the gays”, “baby killers”, and “liberals” instead of on love, hope and inspiration? If I was outside the faith, why would I want to sign up for such hateful religion?

The Proper Response

I want to bring it back to that radio talk show discussion.  Then I want to ask a question that I don’ t have an immediate answer for:  How should Christians who disagree with last night’s vote address today’s world in love? What would a truly Christian response look like?  Would it talk about killing babies or would it be thankful for the millions who will be helped through these changes?  Would it assert the positive (and respectfully voice overall disagreement) or only mention the negative?

I know, I know.  Christianity doesn’t mean being a hippie that only sees good. We know that there are evils that need to change.  Jesus clearly saw those and spoke out against them (but let’s not forget: we’re not Jesus either, so we need to take that behavior with a grain of self-doubt). Is the most effective way for us to change things an approach based on love and respect?  Or on hate and mudslinging?

I only ask for a loving response today.  I don’t ask for agreement. I don’t ask for acceptance of things that go against our faith.  But I do ask for love and respect.  How are you, as a Christian, responding to last night’s vote? In love (be it disagreement or agreement) or hate?

In my family we’ve made rejection of this a priority.  We try and keep work to a minimum.  We don’t over-commit (which means we often under commit) to ministry work.  We don’t sign our child up to do, well, anything. We don’t go out very often and we are getting good at saying ‘no’ when too many options present themselves on the weekend.  Doing all of this has been a great improvement in our lives.  We feel less hurried and we end up spending a crazy amount of time together as a family.  When an opportunity comes up to see friends, to help out with a project that is a good cause, or to just go play at a park we almost always have time.  Friends could call on a moments notice to hang out or to ask for help and we’re here just waiting.

But this is where the problem begins to surface  We’ve learned that making time in life for relationships, family, and friendships is the right path, it’s an awesome step in the right direction.  However, if no one else takes that step with you…it’s lonely and, quite frankly, boring.

You see, now we’ve got all the time carved out and, well, we don’t know what to do.  We sit around the house basically staring at each other because, while family time is awesome, eventually you want to connect with other families (be it friends or extended family of your own).  And, if none of them have the same vision you’re left sitting on the sofa hoping that someone will call.

So, this entry was born in frustration that we’ve made the step to build relationships, we’ve cut things out of our lives to make time…and no one else seems to be willing to put their money where their mouths are.  Why not?

I love my friends.  I love my family.  I understand that everyone isn’t on the same life journey as we are.  But it would be awesome if more people started taking time out of their lives like they say they want to. Everyone says they’re too busy, but no one actually does anything about it.

Sure, it’s a selfish request, but here’s my encouragement.  Stop complaining about being too busy and take some actual steps to simplifying your life.  If enough people actually start living this way, we won’t be so bored.  Now go out there and learn to say “no” more often!! ;)

“Most white suburbanites complain about their taxes being increased because they work hard and don’t want to subsidize a welfare state.  They feel they’re paying for those who are ‘lazy’ and don’t want to work or supporting those with drug or other habits that they don’t think their tax dollars should pay for.”

I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve heard this same old argument about why people don’t want to pay higher taxes.  I’ve heard countless people who are otherwise compassionate declare that they don’t want their money going ‘down the drain’ to social programs that don’t work. I even used to think this myself.  Then three different things changed my view:

There is no qualifier

I’ll never forget the day that Dean made an offhanded comment that solidified something for me.  He was talking about the ‘more taxes for lazy people’ complaint above and pointed out that Jesus gave no qualifier for helping the poor.  He didn’t say “give to the poor…but only if they’re not on drugs” or “give to the poor….but only if they work hard”.  He didn’t even say “give to the poor…but only if it’s done directly and not through a larger government program.”  He asked us to give to the poor…period. There was no qualifier.

The Modern Tithe

The second perspective changer came from a book called Pagan Christianity, which points out that our modern tithe does not equate to the tithe of the Israelites in the Old Testament.  Back then, the Temple was much more like the government than a ‘church’.  The tithe was taken in by the temple for a couple of reasons, but the main reason was to support the poor and widows who can’t take care of themselves.  (do you see where this is going?) If the temple is serving as the government and the tithes are taken to support the poor, you’ve got something that looks a WHOLE lot more like our tax/welfare system than a church offering plate.  God mandated people to pay into the welfare system of the day…and here we are complaining about it (oh, and we conveniently forget about “giving to Ceaser what is Ceasers”)

Corn Syrup Welfare

Now we come to thought #3 that hit me yesterday and brings us full circle back to Rich Benjamin’s “Searching for Whitopia”.  After him quoting this oft-used thinking, he points out a very intersting fact about where our tax dollars are actually going.

Those of us outside the big ‘urban’ states think that our tax dollars are all going to big cities (New York, LA, Chicago, etc) to support these ‘welfare leeches’, but the facts don’t support this.  When you look at where tax money is going, these states that have big cities actually take in less taxes than they pay out.  This means that our Red State money isn’t going to their cities, their city-earned taxes are going somewhere else…so where?

As it turns out, all of our big ‘farm’ states pay in WAAAY less taxes than they get in return from the government as corn and soy subsidies.  Our tax dollars aren’t primarily paying for ‘welfare babies’…they’re paying for corn and, more specifically, processed corn products.

If you’ve read any modern writing on how our food system works, you know that the government is HEAVILY subsidizing our “Fast Food Nation” of processed and packaged foods.  Didn’t you ever wonder why a bag of Doritos is ridiculously cheap compared to, say, an organic zucchini?  It’s because your tax dollars are making up the difference.

So, this brought my mind full circle to an incredible irony.  We suburbanites are chowing down our McDonalds, Cheetos, and Corn Flakes faster than anyone in the nation.  WE are the ones who are benefiting from these higher taxes.  These aren’t “welfare subsidies”…they’re “junk food taxes”.  If you want to complain about higher taxes, you shouldn’t be complaining about social programs, you should be complaining about how our government is pushing cheap, unhealthy, processed foods with your tax dollars. Funny how it’s always easier to point the fingers at others, but much harder to accept that our fast paced, junk food driven lives are really a major cause of our complaints.  I’m not sure if YOU see the irony in this…but I sure do.

Think, don’t rant

I intended this blog entry not as a political debate starter, but as a thought starter.  That’s why I’m leaving comments off.  In the past I’ve seen that posts like this just cause a knee jerk reaction but my hope is that, if you can’t comment, you’re forced to think about it to yourself.  Whether you agree or not isn’t the point…hopefully it’ll make you stop and think about the little bits of truth all around us that are cut off by political hacks and media pundits.

Did you notice that I assumed that most people reading this entry were not people I know in real life?  Sure, there’s some exceptions (“Hi Mom!”) but most people who know me don’t need to read my blog because, well, they know me.  They see me at least once a week.  They run into me at Starbucks.  They stop in for coffee or we work on projects together.  In my new, more analog, life, connections aren’t made or fostered online…they’re carried out around a kitchen counter.  Literally.

I think our society expects us to have too many friends…too many connections. We’re encouraged to put quantity over quality.  We’re expected to stay in touch with people who move thousands of miles away.  We’re expected to run our kids from one friends house to the next.  We have the burden of popularity, the need to be loved by many, the drive to make more connections with our limited time an attention.  I’m done with that.  I will have few friends.  I will make few connections. I will spend most of the time with my family (both immediate and extended).  I will make those relationships deeper and willfully let quantity fall by the wayside.

It’s not that I don’t want to be friends with you, oh dear blog reader.  I look at all the amazing connections I’ve made through my online life.  People I’ve tweeted with, blogged alongside, and facebooked.  People I then met in ‘real life’ at conferences, meetups, and trainings.  You are awesome and I wish I could be your friend.  However, I’m now fully convinced that relationships can’t be built online, only introductions or surface acquaintanceships.  I need some more serious weight on that corrupted word:  Friend.

How can you be my friend if I never see you to give you a man-hug (ya know, with the manly pat on the back so we don’t look too girly)?  How can I be your friend if I can’t give you a hand lifting something heavy or loan you a tool when you need to fix your car?  How can you be my friend if you don’t really know me through day to day conversation?  Sure, you can be an acquaintance.  But not a friend.  Not someone I can call in an emergency or someone I can lean on when I’m weak.  We have too many ‘friends’ in this Facebook-world and almost none in our actual living, breathing, human experiences.

So, (to take this question further to a problem it presents when the premise is accepted) with fewer, better, analog friends:  How do we stay in touch? How do we continue our friendship in a world built on Facebook and Twitter?

I ask this because I sit here in Starbucks alone. I yearn for some of those analog connections, yet to get them I have to fire up Twitter.  I have to text my peeps.  I have to use these ‘tools of distraction’ to make these connections happen.  We no longer live in a time when you can mail someone a letter (that would just be strange!) or even call them and say “let’s hang out”.  These methods no longer fit into lives crammed full of instant and unobtrusive communications.  We’re no longer able to just pop over to someone’s house or show up at their workplace because privacy and efficiency are more important than relationship.  We live in a world so separated and segregated that communicating directly is just plain rude since these connections are not run through our junk mail filter or archived in our Visual Voicemail box.

So, these two concepts sit side by side.  We need fewer and more analog friendships.  Yet, in this world we’re forced to use digital tools if we want those to happen. What’s the cure?  I suppose it has something to do with living closer together (this could mean city or small towns) and putting relationship over work…quality over quantity.

I strive for this change everyday.  The problem is…you can’t do it all by yourself.  So, who’s in?

I’m not sure if everyone else has the level of nostalgia that I do, but it sure doesn’t look like it.

The more I thought about the disappearance of this world, the more I traced it to a single and monumental time in our history:  World War II. I used to think that our country had it’s most radical shift in lifestyles and ideas during the 1960s and Vietnam war…but the further I traced it the more I realized that the 60’s were only the practical and inevitable outcome of a post-WWII country.  The explosion may have happened during the Nixon years, but the fuse was lit on a quiet Sunday morning in Pearl Harbor.

Everything we are, everything we know is almost universally a product of the second Great War. (I can hear a big giant “duh” coming from the history crowd) Lifestyles and expectations of what we ‘deserve’ were all born into existence during my grandparents generation.  We entered the 1940’s as a mostly rural-focused, simple country.  We left that decade an industrial and political super power.

As an example let’s look at the women’s liberation movement.  The 60’s get all the credit for freeing women but it was actually done 20 years earlier when Rosie the Riveter beckoned women to the factories and away from the  kitchens.  This was undoubtedly a step forward for women’s equality (which I embrace and applaud) but it was done at the expense of putting industry and ‘career’ before family (which I heavily regret).  It was Rosie that made women strong but the family weaker.  It was Rosie who was responsible for helping to win that war but made McDonalds meals the inevitable replacement for women who no longer knew how to cook from scratch.

Speaking of McDonalds…WWII is where our concern for our body’s fuel (ie. food) fell by the wayside. We had better things to do, like win a war…we didn’t have time to worry about what we put in our stomachs.  We’d outsource that to Swansons or Kraft.  The problem is when the war ended our culture and habits didn’t change.  We continued to live in ‘war mode’ eating prepackaged or pre-prepared foods which, as we see now, was killing us just as efficiently (albeit a little slower) than a Nazi bullet.

This whole ‘organic’ food movement is a direct backlash on post-WWII life. When the war ended we have a whole lot of explosives material and factories that we no longer needed.  It had to so somewhere.  Then someone had the brilliant idea of putting it in our food.  No, I’m not kidding.  The fertilizer that we now buy in bags from Home Depot is the product of too many unexploded and left over bombs from WWII.  The non-organic food we buy in supermarkets is sprinkled with explosives, which is why it’s so huge and green.

How about The American Dream? (and subsequently our overachieving and non-stop lifestyle) A direct product of the War. We came home victorious and proud to a country untouched by the ravages of war.  We were strong and wealthy and we started to believe we deserved it.  The 1950’s were the living of this dream that we though we deserved. We lived high on the hog in our suburban houses, we all bought cars, we shopped for fancy clothes and built bigger buildings.  We all ‘deserved’ dishwashers and washing machines so we bought them.  We decided that we and our American Dreams were more important than community and relationship.  We worked harder (and more often) to buy more stuff…we neglected our kids and outsourced their development to Mr Rogers, Big Bird, and Ronald McDonald.

I could go on forever but I’ll stop here.  We think that this post-WWII world has always been ‘the way it is’…but in reality it’s only 60 years old. Our previous 200+ years were radically different in this country (not to mention our previous thousands of years before this country).  We shunned self for community.  We worked hard, but not so hard that we neglected family.  We raised our own kids and cooked our own food.  We talked with people instead of e-mailing @ them.  We knew our neighbors and our farmers and we lived with them and supported them emotionally and financially.

And now I wonder how to escape this post-WWII world. How do you live in this era connecting with your family, your neighbors, the land, and God without the distraction and pull of a post-WWII world that constantly tugs on your shirt trying to lead you to a more ‘fulfilling’ life?  I have no answer, but I can tell you that I yearn to disconnect from the hussle (not to mention the bustle).  I look every day for ways to discard digital life for hard cold reality.  Someday I might get there but until then I’ll live each day as an opportunity to move closer to December 6, 1941..just hours before the day that lives in infamy..and the day that changed America and American lifestyles forever.

While I don’t know what I’ll write about, I know why I’m writing.  I want to start thinking again. Back when I blogged frequently, my brain was functioning at a higher level.  I had new ideas, new thoughts, new opinions.  I didn’t write because I wanted to get them out….I had them because I wrote.  There’s something about a consistent writing habit that makes the brain move and operate in ways that it doesn’t normally.  It forces you to put ideas to paper (or keyboard) which means they have to be formed into words and sentences and paragraphs…all with a lucid point.   I think this is why Journalling is so talked about in Christian circles:  It’s the written word that makes spirituality, the un-seen, visible.  It’s thereputic but it’s also inspiring.

In the past, my blogs have mostly been a venue for bitching about the world, the church, or pop-culture.  It made alot of people upset and alot of people uncomfortable.  Those topics caused me to stress-out when people disagreed, but they also help me GET the stress out in a way that, honestly, is currently destroying me.  Keeping that inside makes you sick…and I’m tired of feeling sick.

I’m always passionate about the right and wrong paths that the Christian church in America is taking.  But I think, in some ways, I’m beyond that.  Not because I’ve gotten older or more mature…but because I see The Church (in general, yet not specifically) as a total mess which is beyond repair.  So, while I’m sure I’ll complain about and jab at Christianity, I have a feeling it will be with less vigor…kinda like a Mike Tyson who would rather just eat a cheeseburger than fight Holyfield.

So, here’s to blogging and it’s remedy for the soul.  May it (this time) live long and prosper.

(oh, and yes, this is a Wordpress blog for any nerds that care….)